Monday, April 17, 2017

Transgenders and the North Carolina Bathroom Law

It happened. It's no secret that my son-in-law and I do not agree on many things ... politics especially. This affects my daughter and my grandkids, especially if he and I start to argue our different points of view in front of them. I am a bleeding heart liberal. He is a conservative, gun toting, law enforcement officer who grew up in North Carolina. He must be in control. He usually ignores me, but when he decides to engage, he doesn't hesitate to speak his mind. What he lacks in real facts he makes up in the volume of his voice when offering his opinion. I gave up a long time ago trying to have a quiet, meaningful discussion about our differences.

We don't socialize very much as a family anymore because of it. Who needs that?

So, I was happy to be invited to share an Easter dinner at their house this past weekend and had decided not to bring up anything controversial, just to keep the peace.

Recently, the SIL had been gifted with a trip to the NCAA finals in Phoenix to watch his beloved Tar Heels take the win. It was a bucket-list check-off item.

My husband and I asked how he liked the experience. We thought it would be a good (and safe) subject to start a conversation. That's when he shifted the conversation to how unfair it was that the game couldn't be held in North Carolina because of the Transgender Law that had been passed and that the state had lost a lot of revenue because other businesses had boycotted the state. It just wasn't right.

He didn't understand how people would think it was okay for someone with a penis to be in the same restroom with his 15-year-old daughter. It all must be a conspiracy to attack young girls in restrooms.

I couldn't believe what I was hearing. My mouth flew open and I was right up in his kool aid. "What, you think you know who has a penis and who doesn't? Are you going to question everyone who goes into a public restroom before you let your daughter go in there? Or should we just not let your child go into a bathroom by herself?" Oh, I was livid. This is the fear mongering silliness of conservatives that drives me mad.

He feels like this ^ and I feel like this >

He's worried about someone molesting his daughter.
 I'm thinking, "We have probably been sharing our restrooms with transgender people whether or not we can identify who they are or not. 
I've never felt threatened in a bathroom. "

I'm thinking how big a deal is this, anyway? 
Evidently, he, and the state of North Carolina, think it's a big fucking deal. 

Do people really think that identifying as a transgender is a choice? 
The choice is really between hiding the fact, or coming out and dealing with it. They are who they are. I see no reason for fear.
They deserve their civil rights, just as all other Americans do. 

There's a reason that North Carolina is being boycotted. 
This is a law that makes no sense. 
We do not need a bathroom monitor to take care of our personal business.